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Gary Craig’s note:
"Although Jasmine Bharathan's client was
interested in using for EFT slimming down, she
found that tapping on all the underlying
emotional issues brought many e xtra benefits.
Borrow from this idea and use it for many
issues." - Gary
Article:
"Feeling emotionally deprived" is such a key
underlying factor in dealing with Weight Loss.
Enclosed is the transcript from a weight loss 10
week program; this is what unfolded for a client
after a homework assignment of tapping "Even
though I feel so deprived, I deeply and
completely love and accept myself anyway.."
True to what happens in an EFT session, things
unfolded from "feeling deprived that I am not a
man" to various other things and finally coming
to a place of peace.
A week after of this session, she reported
Feeling blessed to be a woman
Her bust size had increased by 1"! (She is 36
yrs old and not around her menstrual cycle at
the time!)
She doesn't "see" the angry look on her
husband's face because she is a "bad" cook.
She felt wonderful to just dress up, look and
feel good about herself.
She realized that her family loved her, they
were just irritated that she didn't listen when
they spoke with her. (A big change from feeling
like a victim to someone who was taking
responsibility for the part she played in her
relationships).
While this transcript is specific to what
unfolded for her and it is a pretty long read
(although it was just about 15 minutes of
tapping), others may connect with it too, as is
what happened in the program.
She realized after the homework assignment that
she was very angry that she was not a man. The
statements are from the thoughts she shared.
Set up: Even though I am hot with anger ... I
want to hit myself ... I am so angry that I am a
woman ... I am so angry that I am not a man ...I
feel deprived that I am not a man ... and I
cannot accept myself ... and I am not willing to
accept myself ... I feel deprived of being a man
...and I am not willing to accept myself.
Tapping: I am so angry ... so red hot angry ...
I want to hit myself ... how could I have chosen
to be a woman ... I should have been a man ... I
wanted to be a man ... I am so angry at myself
... how could I at a soul level have chosen to
be a woman ...I wanted to be a man ... a woman's
life is different from a man's life ... the
roles that a woman has to play ...so many
different roles ... they are so many ... I
didn't want to play them ... I wanted to be a
man ... I wanted to be a man ... and I am so
angry
Then she felt it was a curse to be a woman and
felt sad about it. (There was no anger anymore).
Another aspect showed up.
Set up: Even though being born as a woman is a
curse ... I am willing to relax in the moment
now ... even though it is a curse to be born as
a woman ...because the woman is mild ... is weak
... and is treated as weak ... but I am willing
to relax now in the moment
Even though I can't accept that I am a woman ...
I am willing to look at my spirit now.
Even though there are so many conflicts ... I
completely love and accept my spirit.
Even though there is so much sadness ... being
tied down as a woman ... I choose to accept my
spirit.
Even though being a woman is a curse ... it is
such a hardship ... although I am living in
times that are much better than earlier ... it
is still a curse ... because there are so many
things that we are supposed to do ...that men
don't have to do at all ... I mean this is
unfair ... what is this ... it is such a curse
... but I choose to accept my spirit ...I choose
to accept my inner being ... that is gender
free.
Even though I have a conflict being a woman ...
I accept myself as a spirit.
Tapping: This sadness ...I have to get
permission for everything because I am a woman
...I need approval because I am a woman ... I am
considered weak because I am a woman ... I am
not supposed to do certain things ... because I
am a woman ... I am forced to do things I don't
like ... because I am a woman ... my body
suffers because I am a woman ... I am restricted
and restrained because I am a woman ... but I
find myself in the body of a woman ... I am
expected to be a woman ... so I am expected to
fulfill all the roles ... there is so much
conflict ... being a woman ... so much conflict
... so much conflict and sadness ... I accept
myself as a spirit ... being a woman ... I
accept the spirit ... being a woman ... I am
willing to accept the deep self ... being a
woman ... I am willing to relax in the spirit
... being a woman ... I am willing to accept my
inner self.
She felt no anger or sadness anymore. However,
there was some tension in her shoulder. She also
said that she felt OK to accept herself now.
Even though there is some tension in my shoulder
... I completely accept myself ... even though
there is some stress in my shoulder ...and it is
also moving towards my arms ...I am willing to
accept myself.
Set up: Even though there is some tension in my
shoulders ... some burden that I am carrying ...
I am willing to accept myself ... and I am
willing to be open ... to the possibility of
unburdening myself.
Tapping: Some burden ... this tension in my
shoulder ... this emotion in my shoulder ...
tension in my shoulder ... burden in my shoulder
... I am willing to let go ... I am willing to
be free ... I am willing to be a free spirit ...
I am willing to accept the free spirit in me ...
I am willing to feel free ...I am willing to
relax ... I am willing to change ... this state
of my shoulder ... I am willing to just let it
go.
She now felt sad an inadequate and had a pulling
down sensation in her chest.
Set up: Even though I am feeling sad and
inadequate ... I am willing to accept myself.
Even though I am feeling sad and inadequate as a
wife and mother ... it would have been a far
easier to be a husband and father ... I am
willing to accept my spirit.
Even though I am feeling low and sad ... being a
woman ... I accept my spirit.
Tapping: Feeling sad in my chest ... feeling
pulled down in my chest ... this sensation in my
chest ... all these emotions in my chest ...
inadequate ... being wife and mother ... I am
inadequate … and I can feel it in my chest ... I
am inadequate … and I feel sad ... but I accept
my spirit ... I accept my spirit ... I am
willing to look at my success ... I am willing
to look at my success ... I am willing to feel
safe with this change.
She then recalled an event when she was serving
food to her husband; he had an angry expression
on his face. He did not like the way she cooked.
She felt disgusted recalling that scene and his
expression. She named the movie "No food, No
love". The globally stated tapping uncovered a
specific event for us to tap on.
Set up: Even though I feel disgusted with this
movie ... no food no love ...I am willing to
accept my spirit
Tapping: No food no love ... so disgusting ...
no food no love ... but I accept my spirit
anyway ... I accept all my abilities anyway ...
I accept all my inabilities anyways ... I am
willing to love my spirit.
She then felt a suppressed kind of sensation and
pain in her shoulders.
Set up: Even though I may have a need to suppress
my emotion ... and maybe my shoulder takes it on
... I am willing to accept myself
Even though I may feel safe unsafe with my
sadness ... and my shoulder takes it on ... I am
willing to accept myself
Even though there is something remaining in my
shoulder ... and I am so hurt ... I find it
difficult to let go ... and I feel so sad ...
and I am afraid ... that it all might just come
out ... so many years ... but I am hurt ... and
I can't let it go ... but I am willing to accept
myself anyway.
Tapping: Something in my shoulder ... not going
yet ... this sadness ... not going yet ... all
these emotions ... not going yet ... in my
shoulder ... my body is helping holding it back
...all these emotions ... in my shoulder ...
because I want love first I want to be accepted
first ... I want to be assured of love ... I
want acceptance ... I want to be deeply
appreciated ... whether I cook or don't cook ...
I just want to be assured of love ... weather I
am a good cook or not ... I just want to be
assured of love ... food or no food ... good
cook or not good cook ... I just want to be
accepted ... I just want to be accepted.
She felt extremely peaceful and settled and at a
level of intensity of 0 on a scale of 0 to 10
when tested on previously stated issues.
In the next group session, she walked in looking
very pretty, extremely comfortable with herself
and there was silence in the room as everyone
was simply amazed at the transformation.
I feel honored to share this experience with
you.
Warmly,
Jasmine Bharthan
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